Depression, Unhappiness, and a Bunch of other Negative Emotions
By Rev. Andrea Favro
Ok. So you’re depressed. Now what?
If you are reading this article it means that you might be searching for a way to deal better with your emotions, which is very cool. So relax and take a listen.
I’m no psychiatrist or what-have-you – I’m a simple man, sometimes even a complete moron. But having had to dabble with depression from time to time, I’ve learnt a thing or two and I want to share them with you. Obviously, you are strongly advised to seek professional help if you really need it.
Now, provided that you are not one of those few people who have an hormonal dysfunction, and we could say that it can be due to mind’s influence, or mental illnesses, if you feel depressed there is only one real reason:
YOU HAVE LOST YOUR HAPPY THOUGHTS.
I know, I know, there are plenty of reasons with different names, but at the end you are depressed or unhappy because you don’t have happy thoughts, that is you have lost them.
Instead your mind is stuck on bad thoughts, unhappy thoughts who simply are played again, and again, and again.
And if you are thinking what I’m talking about sounds like Peter Pan and Neverland, well, you’re perfectly right.
If you have happy thoughts you can fly. It is as simple as that. Now, there are many reasons why you’ve lost them, and maybe good reasons. The problem is that if you feel down for a while it’s okay, but if this goes on for a long time then you really should do something. That is, unless you like feeling depressed and having everyone you know worried about you or looking after you.
So, how can we handle depression, unhappiness and negative emotions?
First, work as much as you can until you fall asleep, then when you wake up start working again until you fall asleep again. Depression is something that grows quite well with laziness. I’m a deep lover of laziness, but I’m not as good as someone else at being probably the most lazy man on Earth. Anyhow, in this particular case laziness is the father of depression.
Dudeism, after all, isn’t against work – it’s against work that you hate to do. The kind of work advocated here is the kind of work talked about in Zen and Taoist parables – tying your room together by rearranging the furniture, throwing out old shit, painting your garage, or maybe cleaning up your hard drive, or volunteering or building something with your hands.
DO SOMETHING. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT, BUT DO SOMETHING!
If you don’t know what to do, start digging a hole, then fill it and start over again. Totally pointless, right? Not so. Maybe you’ll find some buried treasure. Or just work until midnight on trying to learn another language. Do whatever you want but keep as occupied as you can until you have no time left for being depressed. Do not stay under the covers crying while life goes on, man.
I know, this advice isn’t so fancy and it is too simple to be worthy of an entire self-help book. But it definitely works if you try it. The choice is completely up to you.
Second, after you did step one, buy a copy of Peter Pan and study it. Then, if you don’t get the hint, read it again.
I know it is a book for child, not a self-help classic or a self-improvement course or what have you, but it has some very deep insights and advices. And, aren’t we all child inside?
Everything in life has two sides, ups and downs, strikes and gutters and so on. So, when you are happy if you look at it from a different point of view maybe you could find a bad side too. But you simply don’t see it because what makes you happy seems more important. We could say that you see what you want to see. Obviously this can be reversed and looking at bad things from a different point of view it is possible to find a positive side. Happy thoughts are simply that, trying to look always at the positive side of things. Of course this is not always easily done; there are things which are quite hard to see as positive. I’ve lost a father, and a dog which for me was like a daughter. How is it possible to find a positive side? Well, that’s the moment to apply point one until it is possible to see things from a different perspective. Even if it takes a while, that moment always arrives eventually. It’s only a matter of time. Death is part of life, it’s what gives life its value and the only way to deal with it is accepting it, as it is one of the things common to every living being.
So find again your happy thoughts and do not let them go away. Never. And if you find it difficult, try to remember when you were a child, amazed at the world and happy about nothing. Try to think like a child in the middle of life, enjoying the world as the wisest, most stupefyin’ story unfolding before you.
READ PETER PAN!
Now, there’s a simple thing that you can to help prevent bad feelings. Every morning, after you wake up, DANCE. Think about the Dude on his beloved rug, or the Blues Brothers, or whatever kind of dance makes you happy, possibly laughing to the ground. Come on, you love life! Dance to express your love for this beautiful life. Remember there are always millions of people with lives worse than yours, who would trade places with you in a second. So DANCE! Invent the most stupid, funny dance that you can and do it. And if you laugh while doing it it’s only better. DANCE!
One last word:
This innerduces an important question Dudes. There are a lot of questions that each one of us asks or gets asked all the time like: do you have a good job, do I have enough money, what should I do with my life and so on. But there is another question Dudes, which is the Tao of all questions; The Question which contains all the other questions, and this question is:
ARE YOU HAPPY, YOU CRAZY FUCK?
One of the best articles I’ve read here in a long time. Thank you, and hope it does some good; there are a lot of mean depressed people out there ….and, if it doesn’t work….fuck it, lets go bowling.
Rev. AF says
Thanks Windbell, I’m glad you like it. I hope too it can be of help.
You’re welcome, man. You may like this hub of mine: http://hubpages.com/hub/Flipped-me-the-Bird
Ed Churchman says
Way to take a big stick to the despair squid, man. This is an excellent piece of universal help. Now if you can just get it to share a J with you… the whole world will beam like a classic yellow smiley :)
Rev. AF says
Thanks Rev., your appreciation is much welcomed. If the parlance is correct. :)
I never thought about reading peter pan, or dancing but I’m gonna give it a day in court. Most excellant advice! Far out man!
Rev. AF says
Thank you very much Rev. Dudesky. Please give it a chance and have a lot of fun, dancing silly really makes wonders for our mood. And Peter Pan is a great book, I think it has a lot to do with Dudeism. At least that’s my opinion. :)
Thanks for the kind comment dude!
You are most welcome Rev.AF Just a quick note, I tried the dancing thing and it does make me laugh…and breath hard. I felt like Joliet Jake at the church revival! Fuckin A!
Rev. AF says
Dude, that’s a great example. When I think about Dudeism that part of the movie expresses perfectly, in my humble opinion, what happens when we get enlightened by Dude’s light and we understand the benefits of Dudeness.
It’s a pity Jake lost himself in real life but that scene is wonderful. Fucking A to you and I’m very happy that the dance works, I was sure about it. :)
We are in mission on Dude’s account! :) Fucking A Rev.!
This might sound really far out but as someone who struggled with depression on and off for about 8 years I’ve got to admit Dudeism has been a real mellowing influence on me lately. I’ve got a much better sense of self-respect and enthusiasm for living life because I don’t worry about harsh dogmas or fucking reactionaries pissing on my emotional rug. To just be and to choose to be happy even if I’ve got doubts and anxiety- like The Dude says, you can’t waste your time worrying about that shit man. No one knows what the future holds but the present is here, in our grasp. Seize it and enjoy.
I’m sort of rambling but this article really nails it all in the last paragraph, and I’m totally stealing it and using it ;)
Rev. AF says
Thanks Rev. Smalls, your words are really the best reward for me. Dudeism has helped me a lot too, not much with depression but with keeping Walter in. Well, sometimes he still comes out, just to remember me to maintain my dudeness. And I agree completely with your words.
Thanks dude for such a great reward. :)
Rev. Scott says
This article really helped to tie things together. Been going thru some pretty unrighteous things lately, rug pissers, marmots in the tub and such other B.S. Been feeling pretty low….. But Rev. A.F. kinda kicked me in the ass with some righteous words. I hadn’t danced in a while, but i did so with my grandson this morn, and I feel a whole lot better. It’s still gonna be a long row to hoe, but keep dancing like no one is watching, and fuck em if they are. PEACE
Rev. Scott says
Keep on dancing dudes, just as long as it’s not the fucking Eagles!!!! Rev. Scott
Rev. AF says
Thanks Rev. Scott, if my little article has been inspiring then I’m very happy. At the end I wrote it to be useful. :) When darkness are around us we must use the tools we have to see the light again. Or light a J. :)
I’m an ordained priest also, and this is a special post! thanks man…
Rev. A Da Fino says
Far out fellow Rev., thanks for your appreciation; glad you liked it. :)
And a Dude day to you, sir.
i also posted this on my blog, rev.
a caucasian from me to you…
Rev. A Da Fino says
Far out again dude, much appreciated. A pint of oat soda to you. :)